How to Get Real* Intimate?

Craving Intimacy during a period of “Social Distancing? I feel you! In this video, I’ll Share 3 Ways on How to Get Real intimate and Let Your Guard down during this time, when we may need* it the most 😉

Perhaps, with everything going on, this is an opportunity to shift our perspective, that True Intimacy, is more than physical…

… Getting physical is fun and all, but intimacy isn’t just about taking each other’s clothes off. It’s about Letting Yourself Be Seen. It’s being Vulnerable. Because like Brene Brown says “There is no Intimacy without Vulnerability”…

…But, although we may crave intimacy, a lot of us are afraid to experience this…

In this video I share with you 3 Ways to Let Your Guard Down & Get “Naked”:

1- Be Open to Getting Intimate with Yourself First. – “The more you let yourself in, the more you will let others in”

2- Cultivate Courage to Share Your Inner Self with others – “Make your Yearning to Experience True Intimacy, bigger than your fear”

3- “Be Here Now” by Choosing to Live the Moment – “Take a leap of faith in the moment without attaching to the outcome. Feel ALIVE.

Lastly, Why Get intimate? Because we NEED this to CONNECT. To HEAL. To LOVE. To GROW.

PS. In this video, I’ll also be revealing my own moment of intimacy with you all…;)

So, Dare to Be Brave? Join me in this video & Let’s Get “Naked”.

“Why Do You Do What You Do?”

Recently, a friend asked me this very question. Why I blog. Well for one, I Love it. However, even if you love to do something, doesn’t mean sharing it with the world, makes you any less afraid of what others may think, whether or not they’ll resonate. Because a lot of us, aspire to inspire others. To make a difference & feel purposeful in what we do. However, when we focus on fear rather than love, it can hold us back from fully experiencing what could be. And even get in the way, of what we could create*.

Having said that, ever since I started blogging, there were many times I let fear block me – whether it held me back from all that I truly wanted to say. Or, from sharing a post, even when I felt pulled* to do it.

However, with the recent pandemic, can we even afford to not act on what we feel pulled towards? 

The thing is. When you’re driven by love. By purpose. Beyond you. But that deeply resonates within you. This alone, can motivate you to take action in moments of fear. Of doubt. Of uncertainty.

So, why do I blog, even if at times, it may mean, not many people will read or vibe with what I write? Well more than ever, among a lot others, I feel the need to spread the message. To Serve. To bring awareness, and light to new perspective. To share positive vibes especially during this time. Thus, if through sharing we can inspire even one person. Isn’t that the purpose? To help the collective by being who we are and doing what we love.

With that said, when you do what you love & share it with others. In turn, you grow* by facing your fears. Learn* via trial & “error”. Moreover, in expressing your truth, you’ll be heard & connect with those of similar vibe who may even become part of your “soul tribe” . So, find your “Why” and be driven by it. As it’ll give you the courage in moments of fear. Ultimately, your “WHY” will guide you closer to who you’re meant to be and what you’re meant to do in this world.

Lastly, Thank you for taking the time to read my blogs & for everyone who’s supported and encouraged me to do what I love no matter what. You’ve truly made an impact.

Ps. My “Why” is now leading me to Vlog 😉

–> Why Do You Do What You Do? 🙂

Self-Ish or Self-Care?

You Need You, Too

If you ever felt guilty for putting yourself first, this blog is for you. If you ever felt that it was wrong, to honor your needs if it meant disappointing others, this blog is MADE for you.

So, during this whole pandemic, we’ve been challenged, tested left and right. We’ve been triggered and felt fear on a whole other level. Moreover, during this time, our true colors were revealed.  Our priorities were re-evaluated, and our energy re-allocated. Because more than ever, with everything going on, what we want is to feel good. And what we need, is to do what’s best for ourselves. To heal. To survive, so we can thrive.

Thus, during a time when we all need to fight for ourselves, we may likely make decisions that are the most beneficial to our* health, emotional well being, and financial situation. In other words, ones that honor our needs (this may also include a family of your own)

So, does this imply, we’re all at the core, “Self-ish” to a certain extent under given circumstances?  Or is this considered “Self-Care”, if what we want is to take care of ourselves now that we finally have the chance (given our circumstances) and need to more than ever.

But, How do we balance between our own needs and the needs of others, during a pandemic?

While this madness was going on, I couldn’t help but experience inner conflict. I felt like I had worked super hard to get to where I am. Whether it be in terms of my mental, emotional or physical health (yes this may fluctuate). Or towards creating a future for myself. I felt like I had finally come to a place, where I truly know who I am and my needs . In regards to what I’m able to do for others while also taking care of myself. Ultimately, I felt like I could no longer NOT be “Self-ish”, so to speak.

However, during this unfortunate pandemic, I knew others also needed my help. Thus, I wanted to be there in the ways that I could. To be open to finding a middle ground, where both parties could feel good about. The thing is, often in these moments, we’re faced with two options. Either to hold back your truth and put others’ needs before yours, in order to please them. Or express your truth, and stand by your needs (also), at the risk of creating conflict with others involved. And in turn, disappointing them, if they are not in agreement.

Because, although this pandemic was something none of us expected, and although sometimes we got to roll with the punches, if I had chosen the first option, I would’ve likely felt resentful in the end. I wouldn’t have “Self-Cared”. As it would’ve meant putting my own health at risk while neglecting my emotional well being, and financial needs during an undetermined period of time.

>> And was I willing to do that, after all that I’ve done to get here? <<

The thing is, when we don’t listen to our body. When we don’t listen to our needs (emotionally as well) in turn, this could manifest into the physical. Thus, could make you even more vulnerable to what’s out there during this time, and that’s the last thing we need.

But, even if you choose to honor your needs in the end, you may still felt guilty about it in moments, and that’s only human. Perhaps, this guilt comes from the feeling of “obligation”, of being “expected” of? That we may put on ourselves, or let others? So how do we then shift into feeling at peace with the decisions we make that often feel conflicting?

Perhaps, in these moments, we could choose to trust our intuition. Trust that, at the end of the day, we come from a place of good intention. That we mean well, and do what we can. Thus, although in these moments, we may not have been able to please everyone (can we ever?), what’s important is that we were able to we find the courage to honor our needs and speak our* truth (which in turn, leads to growth in self love <3).

With that said, if we come from a place of love for ourselves, then in the long run, we can then give to others more, from a place of love as well. Thus, this may mean, at times, setting boundaries. Asking for middle ground. Or Saying No. At the risk of not being able to please others. Because if you, yourself do not* value your worth, or respect your needs, why would anyone else?    

With that said, although it may be extremely difficult at times to put yourself first, to “Self-Care” when you truly want to help. And even more so when you deeply care about the other parties involved. Remember this: You shouldn’t have to feel guilty for being true to who you are, for honoring how you feel, and your needs. 

*We’re all doing our best during this difficult period of uncertainty and of survival.*

Lastly, during these times, the truth is: You need You, too.

I hope you are all healthy, safe, and “Self-cared”.

–> How are you taking care of yourself during these times? <–

Trust Your Journey. Life Happens “For” You.

Life brought you here – and maybe that’s exactly where you need to be. (In Quarantine)
(I was inspired to share this post as I feel  many of us are going through a super hard time right now.)
Dear friend, family, every one: Yes, You may feel “lost” but now is the opportunity, to find yourself, more than ever. You may feel stagnant, but you’ll grow even more (behind closed doors). At times we’re so focused on where we want to be that we don’t take the time to reflect on how far we’ve come & how strong we’ve become. (You are a Warrior)
With that said, sometimes, we need to “fail” in order to then prevail. “Miss” opportunities, so you can be led to the “right” ones. Sometimes, things need to fall apart (this crisis), so things can then fall into place. Sometimes It’s through moments of darkness, that you can see a glimpse of light. ‘Cause like #Rumi says, “the wound is the place the light enters you”.
So although we may feel like giving up even more during this time. And that things just seem to keep getting worse. Please, hold on. Find the courage, to rise from the ashes (when you’re ready). Find something to fight for, while you’re still here. Do what it takes to refuel, so you can be inspired once again, in time.
➡️ One day you’ll look back and realize, that this was part of your process. To heal. To get to that place, you’ve been wanting to go. Thus, as hard as  it may be, Trust in The ups AND Downs. The battles you’ve overcome. Cause they led you HERE + This period is necessary, for what’s to come next. Which will be BOMB! Lastly, I know it’s harder than ever right now but…Trust Your Journey, Life happens “For” You.
Sending you all healing vibes.

Love over Hate. Peace Over “War”.

Given my Asian ethnicity, it’s no secret I was targeted as well as became witness to hate that was brought to the surface during times like these. In addition to the unfortunate crisis, we were reminded that racism is still ongoing and separates, rather than unites us.

However, as frustrating as it can be to observe all this madness going on, we were also shown on the other side, that there’s still hope in humanity. That there are tons of dope ass (non) humans out there : whether it’s those using their wide platform & voice to inspire others, whether it’s those who are putting themselves more at risk working crazy hours to be of service for those in need, or even those helping out the elders and the vulnerable rather than project hate and profit during this time.

Lastly, the “war” I speak about, is the one within us. Thus, by loving yourself (first), you can love others (more). And during times like these where we may need it the most, perhaps it’s the perfect timing to Choose Love. To Choose Peace. Oh and to always, be a G. 😉

Bored & Frustrated? Channel that Sh!t & Get Creative ;)

So this morning, I woke up and felt the pull to do this Video. I guess with all this madness, I’ve been inspired to do random shit. This.

Alot of people have been saying how bored they are and how they can’t wait for things to get better… Cuz yes. This period of uncertainty sucks. It’s tough to cope with the changes. Unfortunately, what’s happening right now is beyond our control. But, meanwhile, What are You going to do to Shift Your Vibe?